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Top 15 Best Japanese Dating Apps in 2021 - Tried and True! (Tinder, with, and More)

Thinking about trying a dating app for the first time, but worried about what apps to use? Oftentimes, you don’t know what kind of people you’re going to be paired with–will they be looking for a date, marriage, or just friendship? Will they have similar interests? Will you even find a match?

It can be hard to tell without having tried out the app first, but, to help you out, we tried them out for you first! We downloaded the 15 most popular Japanese dating apps, and picked out ones that would be most effective at finding someone a girlfriend. Members from our editing department came together and compared the following:

  1. How Serious Users are about Dating
  2. Results (How Many Likes Received & Matches Made)
  3. How Suitable Matches were (Age, Appearance, and General Atmosphere)
  4. Cost

This is how we tested and found the most exceptional Japanese dating apps.

※All apps were tested by Japanese staff in Japanese. Even in cases that the app was originally non-Japanese (like Tinder), we downloaded and tested the Japanese version. Note, also, that dating apps are a personal experience, so use this as simply a reference, as most opinions are from our test subject.

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Mr. Y
  • Last updated: 01-27-2021
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Introducing a Normal Guy in His 30s in Search of a Girlfriend

For the purposes of testing these apps, we invited Mr. Y, a normal guy in his 30s, to work with us and try out all 15 apps in hopes of finding himself a girlfriend.

Mr. Y
Normal Guy
Mr. Y

Age: Early 30s 

Height: A little over 5'8" 

Occupation: Back office job at an IT corporation 

Salary: A bit higher than that of a typical man in his early 30s 

Education: College Grad 

Hobbies: Food and weight training 

Comment from the man himself: I want a girlfriend. I'm not desperate to get married, but if I do find someone nice, I'd like to date and, if all goes well, settle down with her someday.

Popular Dating Site Apps Tend to Have Lots of Spam and Fraud

Popular Dating Site Apps Tend to Have Lots of Spam and Fraud
When you're online, you want to be extra careful of sites and applications that are full of spam and frauds. Usually, if the application’s an extension of a long-standing site, such as YYC or Happy Mail, it's full of dupes and fakes.
What do we mean when we say “frauds”? They’re users who use dating apps, but not to look for a date. They swipe right and make it seem like they’re interested, but then they try to get you to join strange seminars or to wire over cash.
Popular Dating Site Apps Tend to Have Lots of Spam and Fraud

If any of the following starts happening frequently, you can be sure there are frauds lurking. As soon as you feel like something’s off, we recommend cutting off all correspondence.

    Here are a few examples:

  • People quit the room after sending just a single message.
  • You get quite a few extremely suggestive messages. (e.g. “Lately, my husband hasn’t been satisfying me at night.”)
  • You get quite a few messages about money. (e.g. “I know a way to earn cash fast.”)

Top 15 Best Japanese Dating Apps

Now to introduce the 15 best Japanese dating apps available online. Keep in mind that we ranked apps based on how effective they’d be at finding you a nice girlfriend.
※As these are Japanese apps, the links will take you to the Japanese AppStore and Japanese Google Play store.
1
Japaneseゼクシィ恋結び
TypeRomantic
Average age20s – early 30s
Appearance and personalitySincere, earnest
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)In-App: 3,900 yen (Women: 120 yen for the first time); Online: 3,480 yen (Women: 108 yen for the first time)
SystemBrowse and Like
Results (2 weeks)Received Likes: 11; Matches: 5
Serious about love?A+
2
JapaneseOmiai
TypeRomantic – marriage-oriented
Average ageLate 20s – 30s
Appearance and personalityCute, earnest
Premium membership (for Men, 1 Month)In-App: 3,900 yen; Online: 3,480 yen (Women: free)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 10; matches: 3
Serious about love?A+
3
JapanesePairs
TypeRomantic
Average age20s – 30s
Appearance and personalityVarying, average
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)In-App: 4,100 yen; Online 3,480 yen (Women: free)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 7; Matches: 2
Serious about love?A
4
Japaneseゼクシィ縁結び
TypeMarriage-oriented
Average age30s
Appearance and personalityDown to Earth, earnest
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)In-App: 4,900 yen (Women: 4,900 yen); Online: 4,298 yen (Women: 4,298 yen)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 11; Matches: 6
Serious about love?A
5
Japanesewith
TypeRomantic
Average age20s
Appearance and personalityVarying, energetic
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)In-App: 4,100 yen; Online: 3,400 yen (Women: free)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 0; Matches: 0
Serious about love?A
6
Japaneseマッチドットコム
TypeMarriage-oriented
Average age30s – early 40s
Appearance and personalityAverage, earnest
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)5,000 yen (Women: 5,000 yen)
SystemBrowse and like & yes or no
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 22; Matches: 10
Serious about love?A
7
Japaneseイヴイヴ
TypeRomantic
Average age20s
Appearance and personalityAverage, relaxed
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)3,600 yen (Women: free)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 4; Matches: 3
Serious about love?B
8
Japaneseクロスミー
TypeRomantic – casual
Average age20s – 30s
Appearance and personalityFrivolous, casual
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)3,800 yen (Women: free)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 30; Matches: 6
Serious about love?B
9
Japaneseマリッシュ
TypeMarriage-oriented
Average age30s – 50s
Appearance and personalityArch, earnest
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)In-App: 3,400 yen; Online: 2,980 yen (Women: free)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 4; Matches: 5
Serious about love?B
10
Japaneseタップル誕生
TypeRomance – casual
Average age20s
Appearance and personalityCute, casual
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)3,900 yen (Women: free)
SystemYes or no
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 16; Matches: 2
Serious about love?C
11
Japaneseyoubride
TypeMarriage-oriented
Average age30s – 40s
Appearance and personalityAverage, earnest
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)4,300 yen (Women: 4,300 yen)
SystemBrowse and like
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 5; Matches: 2
Serious about love?C
12
JapaneseTinder
TypeRomantic – casual
Average age20s – 30s
Appearance and personalityAssertive, casual
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)2,200 yen (Women: 2,200 yen)
SystemYes or no
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 2; Matches: 2
Serious about love?D
13
Japanesemimi
TypeCasual
Average ageEarly 20s
Appearance and personalityFlirtatious, flippant
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)3,900 yen (Women: free)
SystemYes or no
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 24; Matches: 1
Serious about love?C
14
JapaneseDine
TypeCasual – looking for a Sugar Daddy
Average age20s – 30s
Appearance and personalityAttractive
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)6,500 yen (Women: 6,500 yen)
SystemYes or no
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 5; Matches: 3
Serious about love?D
15
TypeCasual
Average ageLate teens – early 20s
Appearance and personalityAssertive, flippant
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)Over 30: 4,300 yen; Under 30: 3,400 yen (Women: free)
SystemYes or no
Results (2 weeks)Received likes: 3; Matches: 3
Serious about love?D

Compare the Best Japanese Dating Apps

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1
Recruit Marketing Partners  Zexy Koimusubi 1

Recruit Marketing Partners

2
New Marketing Co., Ltd Omiai 1

New Marketing Co., Ltd

3
eureka,Inc.  Pairs 1

eureka,Inc.

4
Recruit Marketing Partners  Zexy Enmusubi 1

Recruit Marketing Partners

5
IGNIS LTD.  with 1

IGNIS LTD.

6
Match Group, LLC  match.com 1

Match Group, LLC

7
Market Drive Inc.  eveeve 1

Market Drive Inc.

8
Playmotion, Inc.  CROSS ME 1

Playmotion, Inc.

9
marrish  marrish 1

marrish

10
MatchingAgent, Inc.  Tapple Tanjo 1

MatchingAgent, Inc.

11
Diverse.Inc  youbride 1

Diverse.Inc

12
Tinder Inc.  Tinder 1

Tinder Inc.

13
CA MOBILE, LTD.  mimi 1

CA MOBILE, LTD.

14
Mrk & Co Dine 1

Mrk & Co

15
Diverse.Inc  PoiBoy 1

Diverse.Inc

Name

Zexy Koimusubi

Omiai

Pairs

Zexy Enmusubi

with

match.com

eveeve

CROSS ME

marrish

Tapple Tanjo

youbride

Tinder

mimi

Dine

PoiBoy

Features

Sincere Users and Kind to Your Wallet for Those Serious About Romantic Relationships

Full of Pretty Girls Looking for a Serious Relationship

Beginner-Friendly and Features Users That Are Neither Too Serious nor Too Flippant

Perfect if You’re Looking to Date With the Possibility of Marriage

Use the Personality and Compatibility Tests to Be Successful

An App Where the Women Actively Message the Men

Not Many Active Users, but Many Seem Nice

Filled With Assertive Women Who Want to Meet the Same Day

Targets Those Seeking to Remarry, Which Attracts Quite a Few Single Mothers

Not Many Looking for a Serious Relationship, but Tons of Cute Girls

If You’re Seriously Looking to Get Married

For Those Looking for Casual Flings

Full of Women Just Looking to Kill Time

Not for Romantic Partnerships, but Use If You Want to Dine Out With Beauties

Leans Towards Those Who Have Confidence in Their Looks

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Japaneseゼクシィ恋結びOmiaiPairsゼクシィ縁結びwithマッチドットコムイヴイヴクロスミーマリッシュタップル誕生youbrideTindermimiDineCasual
TypeRomanticRomantic – marriage-orientedRomanticMarriage-orientedRomanticMarriage-orientedRomanticRomantic – casualMarriage-orientedRomance – casualMarriage-orientedRomantic – casualCasualCasual – looking for a Sugar DaddyLate teens – early 20s
Average age20s – early 30sLate 20s – 30s20s – 30s30s20s30s – early 40s20s20s – 30s30s – 50s20s30s – 40s20s – 30sEarly 20s20s – 30sAssertive, flippant
Appearance and personalitySincere, earnestCute, earnestVarying, averageDown to Earth, earnestVarying, energeticAverage, earnestAverage, relaxedFrivolous, casualArch, earnestCute, casualAverage, earnestAssertive, casualFlirtatious, flippantAttractiveOver 30: 4,300 yen; Under 30: 3,400 yen (Women: free)
Premium membership (for Men, 1 month)In-App: 3,900 yen (Women: 120 yen for the first time); Online: 3,480 yen (Women: 108 yen for the first time)In-App: 3,900 yen; Online: 3,480 yen (Women: free)In-App: 4,100 yen; Online 3,480 yen (Women: free)In-App: 4,900 yen (Women: 4,900 yen); Online: 4,298 yen (Women: 4,298 yen)In-App: 4,100 yen; Online: 3,400 yen (Women: free)5,000 yen (Women: 5,000 yen)3,600 yen (Women: free)3,800 yen (Women: free)In-App: 3,400 yen; Online: 2,980 yen (Women: free)3,900 yen (Women: free)4,300 yen (Women: 4,300 yen)2,200 yen (Women: 2,200 yen)3,900 yen (Women: free)6,500 yen (Women: 6,500 yen)Yes or no
SystemBrowse and LikeBrowse and likeBrowse and likeBrowse and likeBrowse and likeBrowse and like & yes or noBrowse and likeBrowse and likeBrowse and likeYes or noBrowse and likeYes or noYes or noYes or noReceived likes: 3; Matches: 3
Results (2 weeks)Received Likes: 11; Matches: 5Received likes: 10; matches: 3Received likes: 7; Matches: 2Received likes: 11; Matches: 6Received likes: 0; Matches: 0Received likes: 22; Matches: 10Received likes: 4; Matches: 3Received likes: 30; Matches: 6Received likes: 4; Matches: 5Received likes: 16; Matches: 2Received likes: 5; Matches: 2Received likes: 2; Matches: 2Received likes: 24; Matches: 1Received likes: 5; Matches: 3D
Serious about love?A+A+AAAABBBCCDCD
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How We Tested the Dating Apps

How We Tested the Dating Apps

We tested each of the 15 top-downloaded apps for the following things:

  1. How Serious Users are about Dating
  2. Results (How Many Likes Received & Matches Made)
  3. How Suitable Matches were (Age, Appearance, and General Atmosphere)
  4. Cost
A quick note: we were searching for an app that would appeal to those not looking for a sex friend and not looking for a marriage partner, but rather hoping for a serious girlfriend and a relationship with some amount of commitment. Our scores and rankings reflect this bias.

Test ① How Serious Users are about Dating

Test ① How Serious Users are about Dating
First, we looked at how serious users were about going on a date.

We had Mr. Y send likes to 100 women he found appealing on all 15 applications. We then looked at what users wrote on their profiles, the kind of pictures they uploaded, and how they communicated with Mr. Y. We finally graded each application on how much effort users were willing to make to find and meet potential romantic partners.

We’d like to remind you that since we were trying to determined the best app on which to find a girlfriend, we were checking for users that were committed to starting a romantic relationship; they could neither be too serious (e.g. looking for a marriage partner) nor too light (e.g. looking for drinking buddies and/or sex friends).

Zexy Koimusubi and Omiai Featured the Most Users Really Looking for Romantic Relationships

Zexy Koimusubi and Omiai Featured the Most Users Really Looking for Romantic Relationships
We found that women in search of a boyfriend tend to gravitate towards Zexy Koimusubi and Omiai. These apps had two big things in common: their profiles were neither too detailed nor too short, and content was neither too deep nor too casual–it was in that just right zone.

There weren’t any fancy features, like communities or compatibility tests, nor did the apps drop any huge questions on you, such as how your household is structured or how you envision married life to be. Everything was short and simple, and even people just getting into online dating should be able to navigate the app easily.

Zexy Koimusubi and Omiai Featured the Most Users Really Looking for Romantic Relationships
You can get a general picture of users just by reading their profiles, and most of them are pretty proactive about sending likes, so Zexy Koimusubi and Omiai are perfect if you’re looking for someone nice to date.
Mr. Y
Normal Guy
Mr. Y

A lot of women on dating apps tend to be passive, waiting for the guy to step up and find a topic to talk about, but on Zexy Koimusubi and Omiai, I met a lot of people who actively tried continue the conversation. 


I could tell they were serious about dating because they suggested new topics to discuss or asked tons of questions—all in an effort to get to know their partners better.

Test ② Results (How Many Likes Received and Matches Made)

Test ② Results (How Many Likes Received and Matches Made)

Next, we asked Mr. Y to tell us how many likes he got on each app and then how many people he was actually paired with.

We tried to be as consistent as possible. He used the same picture and filled in his profile the same way on each application; he also logged in about once or twice a day and sent out 100 likes daily. On his profile, we had him make clear that he was looking for a romantic partner.

We understand that results vary greatly from person to person, so we didn’t take Mr. Y’s personal numbers into consideration when compiling our ranking. But we hope this will give you a rough idea of what an average Japanese guy in his thirties can expect to get out of each application.

with Was the Only Application Where Mr. Y Was Left With No Likes and No Matches

with Was the Only Application Where Mr. Y Was Left With No Likes and No Matches

Mr. Y went through all the same motions – used the same picture, filled out his profile in the same way – but with was the only application that wasn’t able to earn him any likes or find him any matches.

with has a unique way of pairing up its users; it has you take personality and compatibility tests, then allows you to send “likes” to people with the same results for free. Unlike the majority of dating applications, you won’t be able to get many likes or matches until you’ve completely filled out your profile and learned to use a bunch of different in-app features.
with Was the Only Application Where Mr. Y Was Left With No Likes and No Matches
Therefore, if you like taking compatibility and personality tests, then you’ll thoroughly enjoy with; if you find it a pain, then you won’t enjoy it.
Mr. Y
Normal Guy
Mr. Y

If I hadn't been popular on all the other apps, then I would've thought it was a problem with me. However, I did get likes on other platforms, even if it wasn't a whole lot—so I can't believe my experience with with. 


But it taught me a lesson. Before becoming a premium member, I should've done the trial or at least tried all the free features first so I could see if the app would actually earn me likes or pair me up with anyone. 

Test ③ How Suitable Matches were (Age, Appearance, and General Atmosphere)

Test ③ How Suitable Matches were (Age, Appearance, and General Atmosphere)

Next, Mr. Y told us what he thought about the users on each app.

Tastes and preferences regarding age, appearance, and personality will differ from person to person, so we also didn’t take these results into consideration when compiling our ranking. But again, we hope that Mr. Y’s impressions will give you an idea of what you can expect from each application.

When It Came to Sincerity, Women on Zexy’s Apps Were Way Ahead of the Pack

When It Came to Sincerity, Women on Zexy’s Apps Were Way Ahead of the Pack
Mr. Y found women who used Zexy’s apps to be sincere. Many were in their twenties or thirties, looking for a committed relationship, and generally came off as serious (as in not frivolous) and sincere. They were women you’d want to seriously date.
There weren’t many pictures that were odd or suggestive or profiles that were messily done. Mr. Y liked that most pictures were of the users smiling and were taken by other people either while they’re out with friends or just going through their day.
When It Came to Sincerity, Women on Zexy’s Apps Were Way Ahead of the Pack
As for appearance, most women were cute or pretty and uploaded pictures that weren’t too over the top – nothing from photo booths that automatically widen your eyes or otherwise manipulate your picture, for instance, or apps that add blush and puppy ears on to you.
Mr. Y
Normal Guy
Mr. Y

There's a sense of trust that comes with the brand name Zexy. After all, they run a well-known company (helps with wedding planning and publishes a popular magazine), so it makes sense that people that are more serious would choose to use Zexy's dating apps. 


Other apps had a lot of girls who weren't really interested in romance and only signed up to kill time, and it made me feel stupid, getting so serious. On Zexy's apps, however, I didn't run into too many people who were just there to kill time, and I liked that.

Test ④ Cost

Test ④ Cost

Next, we looked at how much each app would cost you. We took into consideration how much a monthly subscription would cost, the app’s features, and how many free likes you received and then weighed that against the results Mr. Y got out of each app.

Again, because this test had to do with Mr. Y’s personal results, we didn’t let it affect our ranking. We just hope it’ll be of help to you next time you’re looking to download a dating app.

As Long as You Know the Ropes, You Can Meet Tons of People for Free on Tinder

As Long as You Know the Ropes, You Can Meet Tons of People for Free on Tinder
Generally speaking, if you’re looking to get serious and get as much out of an app as you can, then expect to spend about 5,000 yen (~$50) a month on both subscription services and extra likes.
However, Tinder lets you send 120 likes every 12 hours for free. Its messaging service doesn’t cost anything either. As long as you’re patient and know your way around, you might be able to meet someone nice for free on it.
As Long as You Know the Ropes, You Can Meet Tons of People for Free on Tinder
Also, something we thought was worth mentioning is that Poiboy has something called a POI SCORE, which is an index of how popular you are.

 

Earn a POI SCORE of over 4.5, and you'll be able to use Poiboy’s messaging service for free. So if you’re confident that you can appeal to Poiboy’s main users–that is, women in their late teens to early twenties–then you might find this app a steal as well.

Mr. Y
Normal Guy
Mr. Y

As an average man in his thirties, I thought that Zexy Enmusubi offered the best deal. You get 30 free likes (to send) just for registering. Then, on the first two days you log in, you get five free likes and on the third, you get ten, and this pattern repeats itself. 


You can get another 80 likes if you sign up for premium membership. Because you get so many likes, you can freely send out likes and not need to worry about running out afterwards. 


I also received more likes and matches on Zexy Koimusubi than on most other apps—and people I was paired with were more keen to continue the relationship. This app really made me feel like I was getting my money's worth.

How to Choose a Japanese Dating App – Buying Guide

Here, we’d like to introduce three things you should look out for when choosing a Japanese dating app. Just keep in mind that this buying guide is geared towards those in search of a girlfriend and was tested by a Japanese man.

Check if It's in Line With Your Purpose and How Serious You Want to Get

Any app will have users looking for long-term relationships, but, generally speaking, different attitudes trend on different apps. Users will show different levels of commitment, wish to interact differently, and have put more or less thought towards the future.

Broadly speaking, we’d say that there are three main types of apps in the world: romantic, marriage-oriented, and casual. Take a moment and think about what you want to get out of a relationship and then choose an app that answers to those needs. 

Marriage-Oriented: Hoping to Find Someone to Spend the Rest of Your Life With

Marriage-Oriented: Hoping to Find Someone to Spend the Rest of Your Life With
Marriage-oriented apps are full of people who are looking to seriously date; their goal is to sound out potential marriage partners. If you yourself hope to find someone nice and tie the knot in the foreseeable future, then use these apps by all means. But if you’re looking to hang out, no strings attached, then be wary of apps with the following characteristics.
Most marriage-oriented apps feature detailed profiles. They have numerous fields to fill out and get especially specific when it comes to questions about love and marriage. Users depict their careers, personalities, hobbies, and weekends in long paragraphs. They will also discuss deeper topics, such as their ideal relationship or household structure.
If you want to get a feel for what these apps are like, here are a few of the most popular:
  • youbride
  • marrish
  • Zexy Enmusubi

Romantic: Looking for Love, but Not Long Term Just Yet

Romantic: Looking for Love, but Not Long Term Just Yet
Romantic apps attract women looking for actual relationships. They’re best for people who aren’t ready to think about marriage yet but are looking to be something more than sex friends. You just want a girlfriend
These apps feature users of all ages, with all sorts of personalities. Expect people who are very keen on finding someone, who say in their profiles things like “I just broke up with my boyfriend, so I thought I’d give this app a try and meet some new people” or “If we hit it off, let’s meet up.” Still, the tone’s kept light and casual, for better or worse.
If you want to get a feel for what these apps are like, here are a few of the most popular:
  • Pairs
  • with
  • Zexy Koimusubi

Casual: Start off as Friends, then Maybe Have It Develop into Something Deeper

Casual: Start off as Friends, then Maybe Have It Develop into Something Deeper
Casual apps are full of people who are looking for something noncommittal, like a drinking buddy or a sex friend. And if they find someone they particularly like, then they’ll let the relationship develop from there. So if you’re someone who thinks, “I don’t want to meet up and jump straight into a marriage or a formal relationship,” then you’re best off here.
These apps usually feature super short profiles, often asking you to judge people after just a quick glance at their photos. If there is something written, it’s usually short and simple like “Looking for friends” or “Let’s just go out for a drink.” These are best for people are looking for casual meetups and hookups and not actively expecting anything more.
If you want to get a feel for what these apps are like, here are a few of the most popular:
  • Tinder
  • mimi
  • Tapple Tanjo 

Find One With the Right Demographics (Age, Appearance, and Personality)

Find One With the Right Demographics (Age, Appearance, and Personality)
You want an app filled with users you feel comfortable with. For example, eveeve and Poiboy feature a bunch of cute girls in their early twenties, largely looking to hang out.
Then there’s Zexy Enmusubi and Omiai, where you’ll find women in their early thirties, in search of committed relationships. There are always exceptions to the rule, but generally speaking, apps attract people of a certain age, style, and disposition.
We looked at what kind of users were most common on all of the apps we tested, so make sure you check that out below.

Get an App That Isn’t Going to Empty Your Wallet

In Japan, a lot of dating apps charge men more than women, so money is a factor. Sometimes you need to buy a subscription to message those you’re paired with, and sometimes certain in-app features will cost you. Most will either let you browse profiles and send likes just to people who appeal to you, or they may send you a lot of random profiles to sort through.

Apps That Let You Browse Profiles and Send Likes Usually Have Limited Free Likes

Apps That Let You Browse Profiles and Send Likes Usually Have Limited Free Likes
Basically, in this type of app, you only send likes to people who particularly appeal to you. You browse a bunch of profiles, looking at pictures and reading descriptions, then compare them in your mind and only send likes to those that appealed to you most. This ensures that not a single one of your likes goes to waste.
As for the number of likes you get to send – usually, you receive a monthly allotment or a few free ones for daily logins. If you run out, then you have to buy extra ones. Apps that employ this feature usually charge you quite a lot for any additional likes you buy, and they don’t offer you that many likes for free.
If you’re someone that likes to pore over every inch of a user’s profile and then spend a long time mulling over who to choose, then these apps will probably offer you the better deal. In our tables, we’ll refer to this as the browse and like system.

Apps That Send You Random Profiles to Sort Through Are Based on Appearance

Apps That Send You Random Profiles to Sort Through Are Based on Appearance
Here, the app sends you a bunch of random profiles, and you decide yes or no for each. So you can’t take time to browse and only send likes to people who really leave an impression. Instead, a bunch of short profiles pop up on screen and you just go with your gut instinct; you don’t really need to think, which makes using these apps a breeze.
It doesn’t usually cost much to get the app to send you more profiles, and you also get quite a few free ones just for logging in every day. And if you were to give everyone a thumbs up, you’d be opening yourself up to the biggest number of potential dates – far more than if you had used the browse and like system.
These apps are best for people who choose partners largely based on appearance. In our tables, we will refer to this as the yes or no system.

Lessons from a Dating App Guru

Finally, we sat down with Mr. T, who’s been on the online dating scene for over eight years and has met up with over 200 women. He told us how to increase your chances of getting a date. 

We also combined Mr. T’s advice with the opinions of a typical female user, who spent two months trying out all 15 applications we mentioned above, so we think the advice below may be of some use.

Get a Female Friend to Judge All Your Profile Pictures

Get a Female Friend to Judge All Your Profile Pictures
If you aren’t sure what to use for your profile picture, then ask a female friend for her opinion. In Japan, at least, it’s widely accepted that the same picture will leave a different impression depending on the sex and intentions of the viewer. If you want to know what a girl who’s looking for a date would possibly think, ask a female friend.
If you don’t have any close female friends to ask, then imagine the kind of pictures a woman you’d want to date would like. For example, if you’re looking for a girlfriend who loves to drink, then try uploading pictures of yourself with some nice sake, or if you want a girl who’s into fashion, then upload a picture of yourself wearing tasteful clothing and accessories.
Get a Female Friend to Judge All Your Profile Pictures
This almost goes without saying, but pictures where you can’t see the subject’s face are shady. It doesn’t matter how little confidence you have in your looks, by uploading a picture with your face visible, you’re showing other users you’re serious about dating, so do it.
Along the same lines, don’t use a group photo as your main or only picture because there’s no way of telling which one you are. Finally, try not to upload selfies or pictures taken with photo-editing services like SNOW because most people will know that that doesn’t actually look like you and will be disillusioned upon meeting you.

Make Sure to List Hobbies and Things That You Like on Your Profile

Make Sure to List Hobbies and Things That You Like on Your Profile
Don’t know what to put on your profile? Start off with things that you like. Humans enjoy being around those who are similar to them; plus, if you know what you have in common, it’ll be easier to chat once you’re paired up. And the more things you list, the more things you’re likely to find in common with other users.
It also helps to talk about what kind of person you are and what kind of job you do. This helps other users to know you, gets them interested, and fills their minds with questions about you.

Send Messages at Around 9 PM to 2 AM

Send Messages at Around 9 PM to 2 AM
If you’re looking for a response to your message, then start chatting during times when people are likely to be alone.
Everyone has different schedules, but pretty much the best time is after work when most people are just chilling in their rooms or fooling around with their smartphones in bed. To get more specific, the best time frame would be from 9 PM to 2 AM, and then you can fine-tune once you learn more about the other person’s lifestyle.
Some applications will also offer “boosts,” a service that temporarily makes it easier to be paired up with other users. If you run across one, we recommend also using them during this time frame.

Smokers Are Not Popular on Apps

Smokers Are Not Popular on Apps
We actually had another person testing these apps, but he received so few likes and was so rarely paired up that we were able to get no data and we had to scrap that part of the project altogether. We then gathered the female members of our editing department and discussed possible reasons, and out of those, the most convincing was “It’s because he smokes.”
Most applications let you designate preferences and narrow down your search results. So many people who don’t like tobacco leave smokers out of their results. That means that, if you’re a smoker, doesn’t matter how good-looking or smart or funny or rich you are, you’re already out of the pool of possibilities before people even get to look at your profile.

So if you’re confused as to why you aren’t getting any matches and you’re a smoker, then we recommend you quit smoking

How to Succeed From the First Date to the Confession

Getting paired up on an app is only the first step to finding yourself a girlfriend. You have to first date and finally confess. Keep in mind that dating practices in Japan and America are different, and, while there are always exceptions to the rule, it’s widely assumed that you aren’t a couple until one of you confesses.

Invite Her on a Date a Week After You’ve Been Paired Up

Invite Her on a Date a Week After You’ve Been Paired Up
Wait a week after you’re paired to invite your partner out on a date. Invite her out too early, and she might think you’re just looking for a hookup. If she does agree to meet really early, there’s actually a good chance that she’s the one looking for a hookup or engaged in some kind of fraud.
But you also shouldn’t wait too long to ask her out either. If you just keep dragging out the conversation, chances are that she’ll eventually lose interest and give up on you. And if you get too into it when chatting online, then there’s a chance you’ll run out of topics when you actually meet. Balance is key here.

Ask Her for Her Line Right After You’ve Figured Out When the First Date Will Be

Ask Her for Her Line Right After You’ve Figured Out When the First Date Will Be
In Japan, almost everyone uses LINE, a messaging and texting service. Try asking for hers right after she’s agreed to the first date.
All you have to do is casually add “We might need to suddenly contact each other on the day of, so mind if we exchange LINEs?” and she will probably think nothing of it. Actually, we really recommend exchanging contact info because LINE’s free calling service is helpful when you’re trying to find each other at the station.
If you’re just chatting, then the dating app’s messaging service is more than enough, so when asking for someone’s LINE, it’s always safer to have some kind of reason. If you suddenly ask for her LINE out of the blue, there’s a chance that she’ll think “Oh, doesn’t he just want my LINE because his membership’s about to expire?” so we wouldn’t recommend it.

Take Her Out for Lunch or Tea at a Cafe for the First Date

Take Her Out for Lunch or Tea at a Cafe for the First Date
We really recommend having your first date at a cafe and going in either for lunch or tea. There’s a couple of reasons why we think that’s better than dinner or going for a drink at night.
  • It’s much cheaper.
  • Should you find that you have nothing to talk about, it’s easier to bring the date to a conclusion.
  • She won’t think you’re just looking for a hookup.
Actually, if you end the date while you’re both thinking “There are still things I want to talk about…” which roughly equates to “I want to meet up and chat again,” then inviting her out for a second date gets even easier. You only stand to gain with this method.

Invite Her Out on a Second Date as Soon as Your First Date’s Ended

Invite Her Out on a Second Date as Soon as Your First Date’s Ended
If you had a lot of fun on your first date and want to meet again, then make sure you invite her out again on the very day you had your first date.
In both Japanese and English, we have the following saying: “Strike while the iron is hot.” It’s completely true. You want to invite her out on a date while she’s still revelling in how much fun she had with you.

You can invite her out as you’re parting ways. Just ask her “How about we go to (insert place here) next?” and if she seems up for it, tell her “Then let’s decide dates later on LINE!” Even if you don’t have the guts to do it in person, send a LINE after the first date, first thanking her and then asking if she wants to go out again.

Confess on the Third Date

Confess on the Third Date
If you’re going to confess, do it during your third date. By your third date, you’re still in that honeymoon phase, but you’re also starting to know each other, so it’s pretty ideal.
During the first date, you’re judging whether or not you two even have a chance. On the second date, you’re trying to understand more about each other as people and figuring out how you feel. Then, on the third date, you’re starting to work out how your relationship will develop in the future, so it’s that sweet spot that’s neither too late nor too early.
The more dates you have with no new developments, the more she’s going to think that there’s nothing between the two of you and the higher the chances of her losing interest. Until you’re officially a couple, it’s best to have a purpose and goal for every date you go on, at least to a certain extent.

Make Sure You're Ready for Your Next Date

Make Sure You're Ready for Your Next Date

Appearance may not be everything, but you do want to keep fresh, clean, and ready to impress your next date. Here are some tried and true options for ways to keep your face feeling good and your body odor to a minimum.

Summary

Summary

To find the best Japanese dating apps, we had Mr. Y download the 15 most popular dating apps and test them all. We also had him send likes to 100 women on each dating application, which comes out to a total of 1,500 likes sent.

Some other things we noticed after testing was that it’s important you find apps that turn out many active users in the search results after you’ve set your preferences. No matter how nice the girl or how much you like her, if the last time she logged in was a week or even a month ago, then she’s not going to reply.

So before you dig your wallet out and pay for a premium membership, make sure to try at least one search and make sure there’s plenty of active users you’d want to meet. Best of luck!

Author: Ayumi Sato/Translation: Jasmine Li


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